Hi, I’m Casey. The Intercultural Girl is a blog about intercultural life, intercultural relationships and cross-cultural experiences and perspectives. I am a journalist and blogger from Australia who has an passion for many cultures especially Nepali culture. This blog will cover cross-cultural perspectives, women’s issues, cross-cultural communication, women’s empowerment and intercultural relationships. I am passionate about women’s voices in the media and the movement toward equality between the sexes. Casey has a Bachelor of Journalism (Honours) and a Postgraduate in Immigration Law.
Contact Casey by emailing whitegirlinasari@gmail.com
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Well done Case. I found your story amusing, entertaining and insightful. I’m sure it will help others going through the same frustrations especially those afraid to speak out. I know exactly how you must feel at large social gatherings when your friends start speaking in their native tongue, you can’t help but develop a complex about it (what are they saying? Are they talking about me? etc). And I can imagine you shouting, “Speak English!” I really hope you find this helps. Good luck and talk soon.
Diane xx
Thanks Dix. Hope you enjoy the posts x
Good Luck! Greetings from Nepal.
Thanks Sujen. Hope you enjoy reading 🙂
Hello DiDi, Namaste!
I read your story it is great job. I am from Nepal a graphic designer. I like to make friend abroad. I think this blog helps me. My email is khadka.mahesh07@gmail.com
Thank you.
Best Wishes!!!
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@White Girl in Sari – Charity begins at home . Just for a moment consider the plight of Australian aborigines ( rightful owners of Australia and victims of ” White treachery and oppression ” ) .
Yeh there are some great charities supporting Aborigines. The best one is http://www.closethegap.com.au highlighting the differences in life expectancies between white Australians and Aboriginals. I think it’s a great charity. Although there are many other related issues about indigenous people that international people don’t know about
Namaste ,
i love your stories. good luck with everything!!!
Thanks for sharing! Its fun to read your stories as I have had many similar experiences!
Hey thanks for the comment. I’ll be sure to read your new blog soon
Good to know about you !
Greetings From Nepal.
🙂
Thanks Aarkar. I enjoy reading your blog too
Read some of your posts and enjoyed them. Your blog gives a nice insight into a multi-cultural life! Will be coming back to read more 🙂
Glad you like it 🙂
I enjoyed reading ur story and i m happy for u guys as i myself had a australian girlfriend and it didnt last for more than 4 months coz of our differences…i wish both of u all the very best in life and dont worry abt the people in ne
Al because i think u r way too sweet to be hated…gud luck..
hehe thanks
HI, my name is Alicia I am in a relationship with an amazing guy from Nepal. We havent told his parents yet. Also I am trying to learn nepali Id like to contact you but i dont see anywhere on here how…heres my email plz email me!! penguinfart101@aol.com
I am happy that some western girls like nepalese guys…actually,I am in long distance relationship with white girl…I can nt wait to meet her…I am learning how to make inter-relationship successful..
greetings from Portugal
Hi Casey 🙂
Wow, I spend hours reading through all your posts from beginning! You gave me some insight on what it is like to date a different nationality and some of the conflicts that may arise.
, I have just started dating a gorgeous Nepalese Man and was wondering if I can email or message (Unsure how to do on wordpress) and ask you a few questions?
If you wish, Please let me know,
Lauren
Hey there, I have sent you an email
Can you send me an email about wordpress as well? I would like to start a blog here too. My husband is Nepali and we are currently going through the treacherous tortures of immigration.
Hey Casey,
I just discovered your blog a little while ago and am very intrigued. I am an American girl dating a Nepali man and am head over heels for him! I was wondering though if I could email you or message you to ask for some advice if that’s okay? Please let me know! 🙂 Thanks!
Mary
Yes that’s fine my email is aussie_chick_Star@hotmail.com 🙂
love your blog 🙂
I live in the US and have Nepali guy as my the other half as well.
So much of your blog post resonates deeply with my feelings and experiences.
Love momos!
HI Mandy, Glad you are enjoying my blog. Hope you keep reading 🙂
How are you guys dealing with the religion issue? Any help will be appreciated.
Religion is not a huge part of our relationship. I don’t really follow religion. Rabindra is a Hindu but i find our cultural issues are more of an issue than religion (although religion influences the culture)
Hi Ms Casey!!
Im Asean girl from Philippines in a 3 years relationship with a nepali guy.I love reading your blog as we have many similar experiences.I visit Nepal once two years ago for visit and i met his sister and brother already. Next month i will visit again in Nepal to meet his parents and planned to get married if we can manage to do it in my short visit.I hope you too will get married soon and hope one day we meet in Nepal.
Nice to hear from you. You can email me at aussie_chick_Star@hotmail.com
Love your effort…welcome to our beautiful Nepal…i feel happy when i read your meting with Rabindras parents…all the Nepali parents are kind and soft like Rabindras…
Thank you Manju. I am missing Nepal badly
Have been following your blog for a few months, thankyou for all the information. I am currently in a relationship (and in love) with a Nepali man and would like to learn the language. How did you learn t? I am struggling to find a good online course or something I can do at home. I am from teh austalian outback so going to classes in the city isn’t an option.
Thankyou for an information you can give me (I have sent you an email as well)
Good luck with the wedding plans
hi, glad to see you enjoying my blog. i haven’t received your email- you can email me at aussie_chick_star@hotmail.com
i recommend you buy the lonely planet nepali language book- it’s pocket size and you can get in most good bookshops – cheap too http://www.angusrobertson.com.au/book/nepali/1219319/?gclid=COe7yvy6hbYCFQUipQodYhIAlA
this is good because it has audio and pretty easy to follow
http://www.ebay.com.au/itm/NEPALI-language-Introductory-Course-Audio-Text-Book-on-DVD-/251237418794?pt=LH_DefaultDomain_15&hash=item3a7eeac72a
otherwise if you have an iphone or another smart phone download some nepali language apps which are great for beginners- some are called “learn nepalese” “nepalese quizzy” learn nepali” “nepalese dictionary”
hope that helps
Thankyou for the fast reply and the recommendations, I will be sure to look into them. I have resent the email, I accidently put a capital letter in where there wasn’t one. Oops, someone is going to have an interseting email. Ha ha.
hi country girl, i still didn’t get your email, not sure why it didnt work. i will try send u an email so you can reply to me
Hello 🙂 I’ve added you to my blogroll on http://www.lovinganindian.com as I really like reading your posts and think that we have a lot in common! I’m impressed with the way you’re so willing to adjust to life in Nepal when you visit, and your parents in law sound so lovely! My relationship is just beginning to improve with my husband’s parents, but it’s been a bit of an uphill battle!
thank you! i will add you too, i look forward to reading your blog as well!
R u married with Rabindra now or r u still not sure about the culture difference. I like to read your blog and eagerly waiting for some new stuff about Nepali culture and life.
We face culture issues every day, we are not married yet but we are marrying soon 🙂
I love reading your posts its certainly given me an insight on what to expect when i go to nepal end of next year. Im also an aussie going out with a nepali for past 2 n bit yrs. And so far had no problems really in cultral differences we are both open minded. But my worry is meeting his parents next year. Getting his dad to accept will be the hardest thing. Hes not that open minded and not long ago his only daughter went and married for love instead of arrange marrige and was kicked out of family. Shes now back accepted in family but it worrys me that this guy is
capable of such things whats he gonna think of me
plus language barrier is somthing i worry bout. I been
trying to learn nepali but its hard to go from english
to nepali rather than nepali to english as its
essentially 3 in 1 language. Im curious how did you go not being able to essentailly touch rabindra when in nepal as its frowned upon to even hold hands in public.
Hi Amber, it’s a bit different for boys and girls so you might find they will be more supportive of their son’s decision and their daughter (your boyfriend’s sister). What have his parents said about you so far? have they sounded supportive or not? yes the public affection thing is a big no no in nepal unless you are in a private place with each other or with friends. our other nepali friends kiss and hug when they are at our house but not out in public. it wasn’t hard not to touch him while i was over there, i was constantly aware of it. a couple of times i slipped up but no-one was really around except for his mum and she is super cool so she didnt care
Yeh i was thinking that. As his older brother got arrange marrige i wouldnt think it be as big of deal for him as least one son has arranged. But yeh they know of me but dont speak of it. My boyfriend visited them about 8 months after going out i didnt go as would if been awkward. But he showed them picture of me & said i was his gf. But since then they dont talk bout me on phone or say anything really. So i dont know what to think of that. His brother and sister like me but its the parents i gotta impress lol. From your posts seems a good way to impress would be to know as much of language as possible and be aware of culture. So hopefully thats enough. Your lucky rabrindra mum was pretty chilled 🙂
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Hi there I have just been made aware of your blog. Will be reading further but I think we will have a lot in common:). I am in nepal now visiting my nepali boyfriend for a few months. Its been an amzing time and I have been meeting people and making friends which is nice. I am from qld aust. Im planning on coming back to live in nepal next february and then after awhile we will think about getting married. Really look forward to reading your story as im sure ive still got all these challeng3s and issues to face.my email is sonsdanurse@yahoo.com.au. maybe we will runinto each other here one day:)
Cheers
Sonya
Hi Sonya, Nice to hear from you. You are also from Queensland. My email is aussie_chick_Star , email me x
I am so happy to read about you .wish you all the best .
Thanks 🙂
Hello, As I read a few of your posts I understood better why I myself came to Russia. See I married a Russian gal and have gone through some of the same feelings you have. The loneliness of not being able to communicate at times is unbearable. But I wouldn’t change anything because I’ve grown so much as a person. But I’d like to share with you why I’m here and what I do. See about 6 months ago I started posting about what I call mirror reflections. Mirror Reflections are how different countries and cultures can mirror one another and at the same time be mirror opposites. When someone from new country comes and visits my blog I go out into internet land to find the commonalities along with a picture that joins these two countries together. It’s an exploration that begins with understanding that we are all more alike then different. I hope you don’t mind if I do a pingback to your blog for people to find you and your blog. If you are interested in seeing what I do please visit my blog at: hague6185.wordpress.com
Hey there, thank you for your comment. I am interested in reading more about the mirror reflections so I will check out your blog. All the best
Really liked your blog! Check out my blog at oldnotesforsale.blogspot.com!
Hi Casey,
I tried writing a mail to you and been anticipating a response. Hope you got the mail and i hope you’ll get the notification of this msg in case you missed out on my mail.
Please let me hear back from you.
Best
This is inspiring. Best of luck to you guys and hope it turns out well.
I have nominated your blog for the Very Inspiring Blogger Award and shared your link on my page! Find out about it at: http://nepalilovestory.com/2014/06/20/very-inspiring-blogger-award/
it has been so good to find your blog; it has given a little of silence to my spirit and hope to my heart. I’ve been going through some hard time because of the distance, the cultural differences and issues described in your words. Here, most of friends (Ecuadorian) think i became crazy for having this relationship. And it’s been quite hard to express (and for him, to understand) my feelings to my beloved one. Could i email you? Would be nice and relieving to have someone to talk more closely.
Kind regards,
a.
Hi Andrea, nice to meet you. Yes please email me aussie_chick_Star@hotmail.com and we can talk further.
Hi,my name is Raju Ghimire.i want to marry white girl and i like inter cultural marriage.whitegirlinasari (didi)will u help me?plz i would be very thankful…
I`m new here and just stumbled across. I`m male from India, and my first forced love was with a nepali girl living in our dorm in Europe. It was some thing of a real horror movie live. From the day we started to speak she started to impose all her duties unto me. Say I have to wash her clothes, cook her food and make the room tidy and buy all the things from the market with my own money for both of us. I had to even pay her tution fees for the uni. Saying that she will pay me later when her parents get more money.
The most funny thing is she was brainwashing me so that I should sent my money for her parents who are living in Nepal. It will help them to expand their business. And remember Nepali girls always try to hook unto a white or a Indian. Mine said she wants her children to look non Nepali ,I mean without mongoloid features. By the way she was with other(partners) people also without my knowledge. Not only her but the whole bunch of them in out uni. But tell me which white boy wants to linger around with any Nepali girl. For them to get a non Nepali husband is like something of great prestigious issue. I’m glad I broke away. It was disgusting and horrible the whole time. You may think that interracial is ok, but when you get through middle age, it will be bitter, and suffocating. And you will surely think why you din`t chose someone from your own ethnicity. I`m sorry if I sound depressing.
Nepali girls lack the curves and feminine features required to initiate something in bed. It is all in to nothing. It is like entering in to void. For a Nepali guy to get a white or Indian girl is like achieving something in life. You have just entered into your life. All I can say is keep the faith and don`t fall into idolatry. I`m christian and I find their religion repulsive. They have a long history of witchcraft and mantras. They can cast spell on anyone to fall n love with them. Very dangerous atmosphere.
Fuck off with you bullshit.. you dont like Nepali girls, you dont like Nepali culture (calling it witch craft) i am so gald she left you and now you suffer all alone! Karma for being so spiteful!
Hello there from Germany!
I enjoy very much your blog as it speaks just out of my heart. I am with a nepali guy for now more then 3 years and although we are not living yet in Nepal I had a lot of similar thoughts and experiences beeing in Nepal, beeing around nepalis and beeing in a relationship with a nepali guy. Thank you! I am looking forward to explore your blog more 🙂
Best wishes!
Hey Vanessa. Glad you like my blog and that you have been able to relate to it. You can follow me on facebook at http://www.facebook.com/whitegirlinasari 🙂 take care
Hi Casey
I am a New Zealand women who has been in a relationship with a Nepali man for 2 years. It’s lovely to find your blog (especially as the cultural mix is very similar). I actually met him in Nepal while I was volunteering at a school. But I definitely didn’t go to Nepal thinking I’d find a man, and I also find it weird when I met girls who loose themselves in the culture and don’t maintain themselves. Saying that I’m so glad that I had a chance to live in Nepal before forming a relationship. I lived with a Nepali family before meeting him, and another during the beginning of our relationship. My Nepali family used to call me their bidesi chori (western daughter) and beg to arrange my marriage to a nice Nepali boy. When I lived with my homestay in Nepal (for a year) I had to overcome lots of challenges like sitting out during my period (just from the kitchen. I kind of enjoyed it, I got room serve food in bed on the first day of my period. It was luxury to my surprise. I still don’t like the idea of a women being forced to do anything. But actually my family were always very kind to menstruating women and if you had cramps then everyone even the men knew you were having cramps and it was a legit reason to rest in bed.). Sorry I always type too much. But I think for me I’m so glad I went through those cultural hurdles by myself. His Brahmin family also took to me very quickly because I knew about Nepali culture and I could speak (not fluent) but could speak enough Nepali for basic conversation. So it’s interesting to see it from the other side.
Hello.
I have just read your post.
i am in relationship with a Nepalese man for 2 years now and it is really tough. I kind of need some advice for someone who got more experience on this.
Is it possible to email you ?
Thank you.
Emilie
@Emilie. .its really difficult if u don’t know Nepalese language and cultures ..contact me I will try to help u 🙂 ..thank u .
suuraj111@gmail.com
Hello 🙂
Thank you very much for your respond.
I am going to marry him this October.
I have bought a book to learn the language but it is a bit difficult to be honest ^^;
I have some knowledge regarding the culture.
Here is my email : emilie-ray1@hotmail.fr